In continuation from my last blog post, I was writing about my thoughts on the book, “How Would Love Respond?” by Kurek Ashley. I thought about breaking up each chapter of the book until I came to the end. The last chapter of the book has Kurek Ashley asking you to write down the 10 things you learned from the book that will have the greatest impact on your life. I like the fact that he gives you the choice – read the book and slowly forget the excellent messages gained or be proactive and take steps to actually apply the gems that were read and put them into action.
I actually made notes as I was reading the book as I went along, so when I came to the end, I felt like I had a head start!
The following are my first 5 out of 10 and I chose to do this because I chose how Love would respond:
- Life doesn’t always turn out the way it should, or the way we may think it should be. I have learned this time and time again, and realised that I am not alone on this. Never in my wildest dreams did I think I would be living in Australia, 20 years in May! I always knew that I wouldn’t live in Michigan (my home state) forever as I don’t like the cold winters. I also thought that there was such a thing as a “perfect” life, and I was entitled to it. However, perfect is in the eye of the beholder. How you choose to see it is the key. When I reflect, I realise that it was “perfect” – meaning, very balanced. ‘Perceived positive’ balanced with ‘perceived negative’. It may not have been the way I thought it should have been, but looking back I realised it was exactly the way it was meant to be.
- Replace disempowering thoughts with empowering thoughts. I’m not really into “New Year’s resolutions”. However, with the timing of this book, I made a conscious choice and decision to do this statement in #2. I made little notes in my diary, on my computer, on my mirror so that I am monitoring myself and my thoughts continually. I found that in the past, it didn’t last unless you were constantly reminding yourself. The title of the book is the perfect question to continually ask yourself, “How Would Love Respond?” Like training the physical body, we need to train the mental. Thoughts become things. This spills over to #3.
- Thoughts turned into Action produces Results. The formula Kurek uses is so effective: T >A=R. I have this written on my mind papers as well. Thinking is not enough, it is just the first step. Putting the thoughts into action is really the key. That’s where I find most people, including myself can really get stuck. Thoughts don’t produce results. Action does. Consistency in doing this produces even more consistent results. Consistently being consistent = consistency.
- Everything in this life is borrowed. You have to give it all back. The only thing you get to keep is the love you gave, the love you received, and the experiences your soul got to have. Getting caught up in material things, work and/or time management can delay our journey of personal development. Focusing on achieving balance in what is important to us, our highest values will bring more quality in our life. Sometimes tragedies happen to wake us up and give us another chance to realise and take notes on what is really important in our life.
- Decide to live life above the line. Reponsibility and Result. Three things need to happen in order to do this: Firstly, make the Decision to do so. A decision is the starting point for all real change. This allows you to move forward. In order to make things happen, that is the direction to head – forward. Replace analysing with action. Secondly, is Commitment. This comes after the decision is made. This means you will do whatever it takes, with integrity of course. Excellence is the commitment to completion. Thirdly, is Investment. Take time to check that you are not using blame, justification and/or excuses (below the line). Choose to be responsible and ask yourself, “How would love respond to this?” Getting the best return for your investment of time is crucial.
Investment = I invest in me
Read the book today? Walk in the park today? Watch the sunset today? Or wait until tomorrow, which may never come.
These are the first 5 out of 10 things I learned from the book. Stay tuned for next post to read the other 5.