Happy 09/09/09 Everyone!
This is a once in a lifetime occurrence! My daughter thought that was pretty incredible, as next year will be 10/10/10! She then said that the 2 years after that will be pretty special too, and that she will be here for all of them. That’s a great attitude, as she has her whole life ahead of her.
It was an interesting day, and after the events of the day, I decided to make this the blog post of the day. I had set aside the day for my mum and I to have a Mother-daughter bonding day. We went shopping, had lunch, coffee and conversation that spanned all topics. Last week, I had a Mother-daughter bonding afternoon with my daughter after school. It takes away the routine of homework, dinner, etc. that can take away time from smelling the roses.
The Mother-daughter bond is a very special gift. The value in the mother-daughter bond comes from the two parties caring for one another and sharing a strong investment in the family as a whole. I was reading an article that described the evolution in the relationship between a daughter with her mother. There comes a moment that is critical when the daughter suddenly realises that the mother is another woman. Before this, a mother is more of a symbol. She’s meant to be the nurturer, all-knowing, all-powerful; perhaps even the enemy. She is usually not seen as another woman with similar problems and experiences.
I feel that I had this realisation earlier this year, and I actually had a heart-to-heart talk with my own mother. I explained that relating to each other as women and not just mother-daughter, then our relationship has the potential to really flourish. My personal journey brought me to this and the timing seemed to be just right. My daughter will be a teenager next year, so that relationship will go through it’s own challenges and rewards.
I had some news that shattered my world for a moment. One of my patients rang to share with me that her daughter who was in her early 20’s, fell and hit her head unexpectedly in the shopping centre where she worked, and killer her instantly. I was quite speechless as she was a wonderful young girl that had her whole life ahead of her to live. That is another major reminder to not take things for granted. We don’t know how long we have. I really hope she knew the love in her life – that her family and friends not only told her, but showed her that they loved her and how much she meant to their lives. My heart goes out to her family.
Appreciating the ones we love and letting them know is one of the core values that I choose to live by.
Love to my mum and my daughter – may you always know how much you both mean to me.