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How Would Love Respond?- Part 3

Continuing on from my last blog post, here are 5 more points that I took away from Kurek Ashley’s book, “How Would Love Repond?”….Feel free to comment and share your thoughts.

6. The more you develop yourself as a person, the more personally developed you become. Evolvement is our life’s quest. If we are not evolving, we are dissolving.  Evolvement is not a destination; it is a continual process- our life’s quest.

7. The 3 P’s of Power – Perception, Perturbation and Procession. How we choose to see something depends on how we look at it.  It is our perception that makes an event appear good or bad.   An event might appear bad on the day it happened, but could appear good much later, when seen from a different perspective.  It’s still the same event.

Pushing through the challenges that appear to block your path of achieving your dreams and goals is the experience of perturbation.  Perturbation forces you to expand and reinvent yourself.  Moving toward our fear is where the real growth happens.  It’s where the real appreciation happens.

When you do positive amazing things for yourself and others, the more positive amazing things come back to you.  It’s not about the goal, it’s about the growth.  The ripple effect is like when you throw pebbles into a pond.  The ripples go all the way to the shore and then it reverses back.  The energy comes back bigger and better – it evolves.  Positive or negative, it will come back to you – you make the choice.

8. Plant positive seeds and pull negative weeds. Consciously put positive thoughts in, and weed out the negative ones.  Awareness is very important to hear these thoughts in our own heads.  When weeding out the negative ones, do it in a kind and empowering way.  If you don’t, it’s still negative and disempowering.  Be kind to yourself.

9. Live in the Light! Whose responsibility is it to make sure you are empowered? It’s not your partner’s job, nor your parents; it’s not your boss’s job, nor the government’s!

It’s your job!  We are responsible for ourselves, and to make sure we are empowered.  From a physical point of view, if we want our bodies full of power then eating healthy and avoiding junk makes more sense.  You are what you eat, so make it healthy, empowering food.  Ill health in your body, relationships, business, etc. can wipe out goals and dreams with the destructive energy from negativity.  Be proactive, not reactive.  That is taking responsibility.  We can’t change others, but we can take responsibility to not let others disempower us.  Responding in an empowering way gains power, which makes you powerful = personal power.

10. Ten guaranteed ways to be and stay happy. This one is a bonus, as it is broken into 10 parts.  There are a lot more than 10 things, let alone 20 gems that are in this book.  I made my choice to apply them to my life, how about you?  Here is a summary:

  1. Physiology – change the way you carry your body and you will change how you feel – instantly.   Stand taller, sit straighter, breathe deeper, smile.
  2. Choose what you focus on – whatever the situation, focus on the positive side, you will feel great about it.  Focus on the negative side, you will feel bad about it.  The choice is yours.  To change the result, change what you focus on.  Every situation has both sides – if you say no, you’re not looking hard enough.
  3. Utilise the Law of Relativity – don’t get caught in the comparison trap.  Make comparisons with things that make you feel empowered, not disempowered.
  4. Stop telling disempowering stories – if it doesn’t serve you don’t say it.  Stay out of the “drama glue”.  Turn the negative stories off, replay the positive ones.
  5. Live with CDI – Consistent Daily Improvement.  If you commit to improving your quality of life by just 1% every day, then at the end of the year your life will be 365% improved!  We tend to underestimate what we can do in a year, 5 years or 10 years; yet we tend to overestimate what we can do in a day, week or month.  Reverse this and watch the results.
  6. Let go of your judgment, and have fewer rules – Judgment is the need to be right.  If you let go of that need, your life becomes easier and happier.  Conflicts usually stem from rules conflicts.  Choose your battles wisely and save your energy for things that will be life giving, not life taking.  Ask yourself, “Is it more important to be right or kind?”
  7. Be full of peace and free of stress – Stress in the body causes dis-ease.  Dis-ease of the mind creates disease of the physical body.  Stress is the result of having stressful thoughts.  Therefore, when you’re at peace, your mind is at ease.  The choice is ours to make.
  8. Be empowering about everything.  Let your light shine, it is contagious.
  9. Practice forgiveness on a regular basis – just because you feel someone has wronged you doesn’t mean you need to be the judge, jury and executioner.  Anger, jealousy, hate and envy all stem from the ego.  When you forgive, you begin to heal.  You reap what you sow, and the people will get what they deserve.  It is important to trust this. If you don’t forgive, you don’t heal.  Dis-ease leads to disease.  Forgiveness is not about anyone else, it is for you.
  10. Be grateful – Gratitude is empowering.  Being empowering attracts empowerment.  Count your blessings, so that they can continue to be added to.

Have a most outstanding day!


How Would Love Respond? – Part 2

In continuation from my last blog post, I was writing about my thoughts on the book, “How Would Love Respond?” by Kurek Ashley.   I thought about breaking up each chapter of the book until I came to the end. The last chapter of the book has Kurek Ashley asking you to write down the 10 things you learned from the book that will have the greatest impact on your life. I like the fact that he gives you the choice – read the book and slowly forget the excellent messages gained or be proactive and take steps to actually apply the gems that were read and put them into action.

I actually made notes as I was reading the book as I went along, so when I came to the end, I felt like I had a head start!

The following are my first 5 out of 10 and I chose to do this because I chose how Love would respond:

  1. Life doesn’t always turn out the way it should, or the way we may think it should be. I have learned this time and time again, and realised that I am not alone on this. Never in my wildest dreams did I think I would be living in Australia, 20 years in May! I always knew that I wouldn’t live in Michigan (my home state) forever as I don’t like the cold winters. I also thought that there was such a thing as a “perfect” life, and I was entitled to it. However, perfect is in the eye of the beholder. How you choose to see it is the key. When I reflect, I realise that it was “perfect” – meaning, very balanced. ‘Perceived positive’ balanced with ‘perceived negative’. It may not have been the way I thought it should have been, but looking back I realised it was exactly the way it was meant to be.
  2. Replace disempowering thoughts with empowering thoughts. I’m not really into “New Year’s resolutions”. However, with the timing of this book, I made a conscious choice and decision to do this statement in #2. I made little notes in my diary, on my computer, on my mirror so that I am monitoring myself and my thoughts continually. I found that in the past, it didn’t last unless you were constantly reminding yourself. The title of the book is the perfect question to continually ask yourself, “How Would Love Respond?” Like training the physical body, we need to train the mental. Thoughts become things. This spills over to #3.
  3. Thoughts turned into Action produces Results. The formula Kurek uses is so effective: T >A=R. I have this written on my mind papers as well. Thinking is not enough, it is just the first step. Putting the thoughts into action is really the key. That’s where I find most people, including myself can really get stuck. Thoughts don’t produce results. Action does. Consistency in doing this produces even more consistent results. Consistently being consistent = consistency.
  4. Everything in this life is borrowed. You have to give it all back. The only thing you get to keep is the love you gave, the love you received, and the experiences your soul got to have. Getting caught up in material things, work and/or time management can delay our journey of personal development. Focusing on achieving balance in what is important to us, our highest values will bring more quality in our life. Sometimes tragedies happen to wake us up and give us another chance to realise and take notes on what is really important in our life.
  5. Decide to live life above the line. Reponsibility and Result. Three things need to happen in order to do this: Firstly, make the Decision to do so. A decision is the starting point for all real change. This allows you to move forward. In order to make things happen, that is the direction to head – forward. Replace analysing with action. Secondly, is Commitment. This comes after the decision is made. This means you will do whatever it takes, with integrity of course. Excellence is the commitment to completion. Thirdly, is Investment. Take time to check that you are not using blame, justification and/or excuses (below the line). Choose to be responsible and ask yourself, “How would love respond to this?” Getting the best return for your investment of time is crucial.




Investment = I invest in me

Read the book today?  Walk in the park today? Watch the sunset today? Or wait until tomorrow, which may never come.

These are the first 5 out of 10 things I learned from the book. Stay tuned for next post to read the other 5.

Transition II

Part of my transition included a book I had read earlier this year called, “How Would Love Respond?” by Kurek Ashley.  I had the book for a couple of months and got so busy toward the end of the year that I hadn’t taken the time to intentionally pick it up.  The journey of life has a lot of unknowns, and the messages in this book couldn’t have come at a better time for me.  Now that I have read it, I realised that it wasn’t “too late” it was actually perfect timing.  My mind and heart were more ready to absorb what was in the book whereas months before, I might have missed a few things.  I believe in reading books more than once, especially ones that have impact.  I regularly skip through it now and see what messages may apply at the given time.

I’d like to share some points of this with you and encourage you to read this and see how it applies or can apply to your own life.  Part of overall wellness includes a balance of information stimulating the brain cells.

One of the first pages of the book before it starts reads, “Your mind is like a parachute.  It works much better when it’s open!” – How true this statement is, and that is where we can change our life so much.  Things like social, family or religious conditioning can cause our minds to not be “free”.  The first step in creating change is awareness.  Awareness is the key.  From here, we can make changes in our lives.  There are several examples of his personal journey, and the fact of the matter is, “we all have a story.”  We got here today by the life experiences we have had thus far.  There are no accidents.  We have choices on which perception to believe – choosing to look at it from a positive view or a negative view.  We have that power to choose, whether you believe this or not.  By learning how to access this power, there are ways to open the mind and keep it open.  Keeping it open is even more important, because old patterns and old behaviours can creep up and get in the way.

“Life Doesn’t Turn Out The Way It Should” – Kurek Ashley shares his amazing story in detail of his life-changing experience.  We have them in different times, different forms, different places with different people – SEE’s (Significant Emotional Events) that literally change your life.  I’ll leave Kurek’s personal story described in Chapter 1 for the reading in the book – don’t want to spoil any of the details, but the messages and summary is this:

“Trust in the fact that there are no accidents and that there is something in this book that you’re searching for in your life.  And even if you don’t yet know what it is you’re searching for or maybe you didn’t even know that you are searching, have faith that it will be revealed to you, and that’s why you chose this book.”

Usually, circumstances and events don’t appear or reveal themselves for what they truly are until later.  Knowing what questions and thoughts to form around those events can make the biggest difference in the evolution of your life.  That has always been the case with me.  Trusting the process of life is a very big challenge for us all.  The points in this book set the stage for the beginning of the last 6 months of my transition.